4 Tips for Feeling ‘Body Peace’ While in Your Bathing Suit

Valerie Bisharat body positive

It was the summer after freshman year of college. Some friends and I climbed out of the car at the beach, chatting and laughing excitedly. I remember that afternoon not just because the sand, wind, and hot sun at Mamaroneck Beach in New York were lovely, but because I was so focused on how my body didn’t live up to my goals.

I felt a little trapped. On the one hand, I wanted to wear a bikini because I thought that would mean I was confident – but I didn’t want to show my abs or back because I thought they weren’t defined enough to be seen. On the other hand, I wanted to wear a one-piece because it made me feel a little comfier in my skin. But the one-piece also seemed a little frumpy, like I was hiding something. On top of it all, I’d been working out a lot and didn’t feel like the results in the mirror matched my efforts.

It was a setup I couldn’t win.

In the years afterwards, I would spend tons of time learning about nutrition and fitness, in part because I really wanted to look like I worked out. I eventually achieved my ideal bikini body. But here’s what I wasn’t expecting: having that body didn’t bring me peace.

Valerie Bisharat body peace in a bathing suit

Growing body confidence was less about wearing the right kind of bathing suit and more about how I spoke to myself. Less about looking a certain way and more about accepting my body – taking care of myself because I love my body, not because I hate it. Less about dieting for the summer season and more about making a Forever Plan with food and healthy living.

Let’s chat about 4 ways to have more ‘body peace’ in your bathing suit:

  1. Picture a megaphone loudly announcing the thoughts in your head about your body – what words are being broadcast? Are they unkind or kind? You can use this technique to notice the negative thoughts and substitute them with kinder ones.

  2. Remind yourself that the only thoughts that matter about your body are your own. The average person in the U.S. sees about 5,000 ads per day – and since the health industry is huge and growing, a chunk of those messages are trying to influence how we feel about our bodies. We can easily feel confused and pulled in lots of different directions. Simply, your opinion is the only one that matters.

  3. Other people often feel a little insecure in their swimsuits too. They understand! Here’s why that matters: think about a time when you were struggling with something – say balancing your priorities, budgeting, or keeping up with your relationships – and shared the details with a dear friend who obviously really related. Doesn’t that often take a weight off your shoulders? To remember you’re not the only one and that others understand? Being self-conscious about your body can feel like being stranded on an island by yourself when in reality, many people around you get it.

  4. Talk about the insecurities. Shame, including about our bodies, loves the dark and often starts to dissolve when it comes to light – in other words, when it’s spoken. Who’s that open-minded person in your life who you could reach out to and say, “So, I have a question. I’m struggling with not feeling confident in my body especially now that it’s summer and I thought you’d understand. Can we talk it through?” If no one jumps to mind, writing in a journal is awesome for this kind of topic.

Like most things worth having, going from feeling uncomfy in your skin to feeling body peace often takes time and attention. But hard work pays off and makes us more healthy, strong, and successful because of it.

What are your thoughts about body confidence in a swimsuit? Let me know below in the comments!

Lifting for Beginners

I staggered to the water fountain at the gym. It was around 9:30 am on a Monday and I’d managed to roll out of bed for a personal training session. I was out of shape and hadn’t eaten breakfast, and the session was kicking my entire behind. Standing at the fountain, I gasped for water, feeling like I might heave. I felt frustrated with myself and super embarrassed.

This was about a month into working out and it’s safe to say I said some stuff during that time that I’m not proud of 😂 I mostly HATED training sessions, save the rest breaks when I could talk with my trainer and attempt to stall.

Funny how sometimes the things that challenge you the most become the things you’re most passionate about.

The tide shifted about eight months in and now, almost 10 years later, I’m answering one of the questions I get asked most frequently: “What’s the best kind of exercise?”

The short answer is that there’s no right or wrong answer to this question – it depends on what changes you’re aiming to make in your body and what you enjoy doing (or at least dislike the least). Keep in mind that growing a love of lifting – or any kind of exercise, really – can take time and persistence.

Want to look toned? Lifting is the fast track

Not everyone wants to change how her body looks so let’s not normalize that. But about 85% of my clients do want to look more toned – and also improve their general health. If that describes you, lifting will be a great help in reaching your goals. For most women, looking more toned means increasing their muscle mass and decreasing body fat, which decreases your body fat percentage. Lifting is the most efficient way to do the first part of that equation: increase muscle mass.

Valerie Bisharat squat

Why lifting?

Lifting – or using weights that equal a significant percentage of your body weight – is super powerful. Pun intended!

It’s a common misconception that to lose fat, you have to burn calories (usually by doing lots of cardio) in order to expend more calories than you take in. While this does cause weight loss and works to a degree, for many women, it’ll only take us part of the way there. It won’t give us definition. So rather than thinking about losing fat, think about building muscle to reveal when you lose that fat.

Lifting is also linked to:

  • Decreased risk of osteoporosis
  • Decreased risk of fractures
  • Improved balance, reducing falls and injuries
  • Lowered risk of sleep apnea
  • Better cognitive function
  • Improved memory
  • Prevention of loss of muscle mass as you age
  • Better posture
  • Decreased stress
  • Increased self-esteem
  • Of course, it also makes you stronger, which can make day-to-day life easier and more enjoyable.

But… what if I don’t want to lift?

It goes back to what results you’re looking for – for most women who want to look more toned, lifting is a part of the deal. You might not like it immediately. Heck, you might not like it for the first six months. But I think it’s possible to find passion for many things so consider giving it some time. I usually see clients turn a corner around the two month mark when they notice themselves getting noticeably stronger, more fit, and leaner.

How often should I lift?

This depends on several factors: your goal, how quickly you want to see results, your starting body composition, how often you can work out and maintain a balanced lifestyle, and how you might want to include other movement modalities into your routine.

I typically do four to five workouts per week and three to four of those are weight training.

Any well-rounded program also includes cardio for improved heart health, mood, and circulation.

Here’s how an example week in my training regimen fits together:

  • Monday – Lift 1, upper body focus
  • Tuesday – rest day
  • Wednesday – rest day
  • Thursday – Lift 2, lower body focus; 25 minutes cardio
  • Friday – rest day
  • Saturday – Lift 3, upper body focus; 25 minutes cardio
  • Sunday – Lift 4, lower body focus

I usually fit in a couple of yoga practices a couple times a week, usually about 20 minutes each.

Valerie Bisharat weightlifting

Two important keys: you want your workouts to be hard and to get progressively harder. If it doesn’t challenge you, it won’t change you.

Also, our bodies are designed to adapt to whatever stressors we place on them so planning what’s called “progressive overload” is important. Progressive overload means systematically making your workouts harder by increasing the intensity of a certain movement through the addition of weight, reps, sets, or training frequency, or through the reduction of rest time between sets.

Getting started

If you want me to write a more detailed guide to getting started lifting in the gym, leave a comment and let me know!

In the meantime, here are some guidelines:

  • To get more comfortable in the weight room, ask the front desk at your gym if the fitness manager is available to give you a tour. The manager will show you the layout so you know where to find all of the equipment.
  • Ask a friend who works out to show you how to use some of the equipment. Start with a couple of exercises to get your feet wet and build from there.
  • Watch videos of lifting movements and practice them at home in privacy. No, this won’t be a perfect solution, but it’s a big stride in the right direction.

If you’re like many women (myself included!), this will feel intimidating at first. But in the end, the juice should be worth the squeeze.

FAQ’s – let me know if you want me to write an article about any of these topics by leaving a comment below or DMing me on Instagram @valeriebisharat!

Q: Will lifting make me look bulky?
A: It depends on several factors including what you consider bulky, your nutritional habits, and your stress levels. In general, lifting is a tool to decrease your body fat percentage and for most women, it takes a lot of hard work in the gym to build muscle.

Q: What should I eat before and after lifting?
A: You want to have energy to throw into your training session and eat afterwards in a way that supports recovery and muscle growth. For pre-workout, you could have an energizing meal by eating a serving of protein, colorful veggies, a healthy fat, and half a baked sweet potato. For example, you could have an organic rotisserie chicken breast, roasted Brussels sprouts, half a small avocado, and the sweet potato. Afterwards, have a serving of protein and a starchy carb for recovery and muscle growth. Veggies could go here too! For example, this could be a high quality protein powder shake with a banana, unsweetened almond milk, frozen berries, and kale.

Q: How many sets and reps of each exercise should I do?
A: This goes back to the importance of progressive overload, or making your training sessions more intense over time. Start with a set of exercises and week to week, increase the intensity of each by upping the reps, weight, sets, or frequency or decreasing the rest times. This takes some planning but can be highly motivating! Little by little, a little becomes a lot.

Q: Lifting seems like a guy’s thing and I identify as a woman. How can I make lifting feel more organic?
A: Find female or female-identifying athlete(s) who inspire you and keep them in your mental orbit. That might mean finding an athlete on Instagram and following her for a daily dose of inspiration or asking a lifting loving-female friend or family member to talk workouts with you. There’s nothing like having an example to motivate you!

Q: Can I lift while I’m traveling?
A: Yes! Most hotel gyms have at least a set of dumbbells, which is enough equipment to have a good workout while traveling. Also, you can incorporate body weight exercises like push-ups, squats, planks, burpees, and pull-ups.


  1. Lifting is linked to weight loss and getting leaner:
  2. Common misconceptions about burning calories and weight loss and the connection between strength training and waist size reduction:
  3. Some ways in which lifting is particularly important for women (including many of the specific benefits listed below):
  4. Lifting may help reduce the risk of osteoporosis, bone fractures, and muscle loss while it also may improve balance:
  5. May help decrease the risk of sleep apnea and improve cognitive function and memory:
  6. May help improve alignment:
  7. May help increase self-esteem and decrease stress:
  8. Some people see results after only a brief period:

Research contributed by Mayfair Rucker.

The ABCs of CBD Oil

Valerie Bisharat CBD oil
Medical disclaimer: this blog post is for educational purposes only. It’s not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, mitigate, cure, or prevent any disease. Consult with your doctor before making any changes.

The morning after I first used CBD oil, I fluttered my eyes open and said to myself, “I think I fell asleep in this position. Did I even move an inch last night??”

This was curious because I struggled with sleep – both falling asleep and getting deep sleep – for much of my life. Practicing meditation resolved the falling asleep issue, but nothing I tried helped me get deeper, restorative sleep. Even if I slept 8-9 hours, I’d usually wake up tired.

Until CBD.

I can honestly say that since I started using CBD oil every day, I feel consistently well-rested. Better sleep is the main CBD benefit I’ve noticed and the results were immediate. (Keep in mind I take CBD oil – two drops under the tongue – in concert with other healthy habits, so feeling as good as I do now can’t be credited to liquid in a bottle alone.)

Now that I’m finally getting a good night’s sleep, I enjoy life more. I have so much more fire to give in the gym. I’ve fallen more deeply in love with lifting and have more workout stamina as a result.

Let’s be clear though: as a real food lover and supplement skeptic, I’m the last to tout supposed “cure-alls.” While I don’t claim that CBD is a magic potion, the rippling benefits that it provides somehow make it feel like it. And hey, I’m hooked.

It’s safe to say that over the next few years, you’ll see CBD sweep the country… and for good reason. When I polled my Instagram community about whether they were interested in learning about CBD, almost 100% voted that “yes,” I should write this blog post.

Let’s discuss what CBD is, why it’s linked to so many amazing potential health benefits, and how to get your hands on it.

So what exactly is CBD?

Cannabidiol, or CBD for short, is a naturally occurring compound found in two different plants in the “cannabis sativa” family – the hemp and marijuana plants. We’ve found a way to extract that compound and bottle it, so to speak. When most people talk about CBD sold over-the-counter, they’re referring to CBD extracted from the hemp plant, not the marijuana one. CBD isn’t weed. Hemp isn’t weed.

Here’s the kicker: CBD offers many of the health benefits of marijuana without making you feel high.

In other words, CBD isn’t “psychoactive” because it only contains a tiny percentage of THC (0.3% or less), the compound in marijuana that makes you “stoned”. For reference, marijuana usually contains between 10-25% THC.

CBD is also legal in most states, except for Idaho, Indiana, Kansas, Nebraska, South Dakota, and West Virginia, where it’s illegal. You should know, though, that CBD isn’t yet legal at the federal level, which makes its overall status a gray area. If you live in one of the U.S. states other than what I mentioned above, I personally wouldn’t be concerned (although this isn’t formal legal advice). There’s more information about how to find out the legal status of CBD where you live in the FAQ’s below.

CBD products come in many forms, including oils, capsules, oral sprays, topical calms, bath bombs, and gummies. Some are ingestible (meaning, you eat them) and others get absorbed through the skin. Since CBD isn’t federally legal yet, these products aren’t officially classified by the Food and Drug Administration as supplements, food, or pharmaceuticals, or over-the-counter drugs.

Last piece of unbelievably good news: research shows that unlike other substances, we don’t build up a tolerance to CBD. How snazzy is that?

What are the potential benefits of CBD?

CBD might sound like a cure-all because it works on what’s called the endocannabanoid system of the body, which is all about homeostasis or equilibrium.

That’s why research suggests that CBD has such potentially far-reaching health benefits as:

  • Alleviation of anxiety symptoms

  • Reduced pain symptoms

  • Decreased inflammation

  • Alleviation of depression symptoms

  • Reduced seizures in epilepsy patients

  • Reduced symptoms in patients with neurodegenerative disorders

  • Clearer skin

  • Improved symptoms in patients with schizophrenia

Pretty cool. Although not a substitute for eating healthy and moving your body, CBD can reduce stress, which helps with recovering from workouts, regulating hunger hormones, being consistent with your movement routine, promoting fat loss, and getting stronger.

This is the CBD oil I take (not sponsored)

There are lots of CBD brands out there, but just as I do with groceries, I like to ensure that the ingredients are wholesome.

Enter: PureKana (this isn’t a sponsored post – I’m just a fan).

PureKana products are the equivalent of heading to your local farmer’s market and getting produce free of pesticides.

Valerie Bisharat CBD oil

Brand: PureKana
Product: Premium CBD Oil Drops
Ingredients: Hemp extract, MCT oil, natural flavors
Flavors: Mint, Natural, or Vanilla (I like mint-flavored CBD)
Sizes: 30 ml
Concentration of CBD: 300 mg, 600 mg, 1,000 mg (I use the 300 mg)
Price: $54, $95, $154 respectively
How long it lasts: 5 weeks assuming 1 serving/day
Dosing: The label recommends to put a half dropper under the tongue and hold it there for 60-90 seconds. I take a touch more than that about 10 minutes before I get in bed

If any of you have sticker shock, as someone who isn’t a big spender, let me say: the physical benefits are worth making other tradeoffs in my budget. I’ve even joked that CBD is the best money I spend… it’s not far from the truth.

There are also cheaper options, but unfortunately in this situation, you mostly get what you pay for. I actually started experimenting with CBD using a different brand, and while it immediately helped with feeling more rested, I discovered that it was made using an extraction method that wasn’t too confidence-promoting (more on that in the next section). So I researched other brands online and found PureKana.

To rotate my supplementation, I’m now toggling between using that first brand (Charlotte’s Web) and PureKana.

Also, keep in mind that you may have to try a couple of different brands of CBD before you find one that works for you. Responses between people vary. One person’s CBD holy grail might not work for another and vice versa.

On ingredient quality

When it comes to CBD quality, there are two main phrases to remember: “CO2 extraction” and “third party testing.”

Let’s start with CO2 extraction. Basically, there are two primary ways to extract CBD from the hemp plant and CO2 extraction is the healthier option. It’s also more expensive so you’ll see those benefits reflected on the price tag. You usually won’t have to hunt for information on CO2 extraction as companies that employ that method tend to tout it.

If you’re curious, the alternative is solvent extraction, which involves soaking the plant in neurotoxic chemicals like ethanol, hexane, or butane. 🙃 That wouldn’t necessarily be bothersome if you were taking CBD, say, a couple times a year, but if it’s going to be a staple, CO2 extraction is something to consider.

Now, let’s talk third party testing. Since, like supplements, CBD products don’t get approved by the FDA before landing in your medicine cabinet, it’s important to find companies that send their products to third party labs for purity testing. Translation? Through tests, these labs determine if the ingredients in the bottle are in fact what the company says they are.

Of course, the PureKana oil above is made using CO2 extraction and is third party tested.

Finding oil that’s organic, pesticide-free, and herbicide-free is also great. Many companies that use CO2 extraction and do third party testing will also meet those criteria.

Let me know what you think!

I want to hear your thoughts on CBD! Will you try it? What are your experiences with CBD? Do you have any questions?

Leave it all in the comments!

Happy lifting...
Love and light,


Q: Will CBD make me high?
A: No. CBD is different from marijuana. Marijuana contains 10-25% THC, the compound that makes you feel high, and CBD usually has about 0.3% THC. At the concentration found in CBD, the THC doesn’t trigger a psychoactive response.

If you go to a medical marijuana dispensary, you can purchase marijuana products that contain CBD and will make you high, but you’d have to seek it out.

Q: In what states is CBD legal?
A: CBD is a new-ish industry, and laws are being debated and challenged in real time. Although this isn’t legal advice, consider Googling CBD laws in your specific state. As of this writing, the most comprehensive summary I could find of CBD’s legal status state-by-state is here.

Q: Can I buy CBD online?
A: CBD is available online, but before purchasing, consider looking into your state’s CBD laws. Plenty have people have purchased CBD online without issue, but in some cases packages have been confiscated.

Q: Can I fly with CBD?
A: No, according to TSA.

That said, TSA states that they don’t proactively search for CBD or even marijuana-related products. Even so, I won’t be flying with CBD in my carry-on or checked bag.

Q: I hear there’s hemp-derived and marijuana-derived CBD. What’s the difference?
A: Hemp and marijuana are two different plants in the cannabis sativa family. When people talk about taking CBD oil, most of the time, they’re referring to CBD extracted from the hemp plant, which isn’t psychoactive. But CBD is present in marijuana too, so if you seek it out, you can find marijuana products that contain CBD.

Q: Why do you take CBD in oil format?
A: I prefer oil over other formats like gummies or bath bombs because it’s sort of like choosing whole foods over processed ones. My oil is made from three ingredients – hemp oil, MCT oil, and natural flavors – while your average gummies will have items like corn syrup and artificial flavors.

Q: Has CBD been demonstrated to be safe to use?
A: A review of dozens of studies about CBD showed it to be safe in both chronic and high doses (up to 1500 mg per day).

Q: Is it safe for pregnant or breastfeeding mothers?
A: Currently, there aren’t any studies (at least none that I was able to find) exploring how CBD affects pregnant or breastfeeding women. Consider talking to a doctor you trust.

Q: How long did you use CBD for before writing this post?
A: Five months.


  1. CBD isn’t psychoactive because it only contains a tiny percentage of THC (0.3% or less), the compound in marijuana that makes you feel high: 
  2. Marijuana usually contains between 10-25% THC: 
  3. CBD is also legal in most states, except for Idaho, Indiana, Kansas, Nebraska, South Dakota, and West Virginia, where it’s illegal (this isn’t formal legal advice – continue to stay updated on your state’s laws): 
  4. We don’t build up a tolerance to CBD:
  5. May help with alleviation of anxiety symptoms:
  6. May help reduce pain symptoms: 
  7. May help decrease inflammation: 
  8. May alleviate depression symptoms: 
  9. May help with reduced seizures in epilepsy patients:
  10. May help with reduced symptoms in patients with neurodegenerative disorders:
  11. May help with clearer skin:
  12. May help with improved symptoms in patients with schizophrenia:
  13. Flying with CBD oil is prohibited by TSA: 
  14. Review concluding CBD to be safe:

4 Things I Wish I Knew When I Started Working Out

Three years ago today, I opened the virtual doors to ValerieBisharat.com. I’m celebrating by sharing four things I wish I knew when I first started working out.

1. Lift heavy weights. Heavier weights than you ever imagined!

Quick story: I initially went from no activity to regular exercise (elliptical and two strength training days per week) and lost a noticeable amount of weight.

But after a year or so, I couldn’t figure out why – despite exercising all the time and eating what I thought was a “good” diet – I didn’t look leaner. The results didn’t seem to reflect the effort.

At the same time, I started working out with a female personal trainer who lived and breathed the weights. She inspired me to not just do a few bicep curls here and there but to assume lifting – with a significant amount of weight (for reference, I can currently deadlift 150% of my bodyweight) – as my workout mainstay.

As you can see below, once I started lifting with intensity, my body dramatically changed.

  Far right photo by NayMarie Photography.

Far right photo by NayMarie Photography.

But what you can’t see here – and what I never could’ve predicted – were the mental and emotional benefits that came from lifting. Lifting showed me how to set a goal and achieve it. It proved to me that I can do much of what I set my mind to. It made me stronger in every sense of the word. I can’t imagine who I’d be without it.

2.  Focus your attention on the ACTIONS required to be healthier rather than the parts of your appearance that you want to change. You’ll save a lot of time and energy.

I learned the hard way that focusing on perceived flaws gets us absolutely nowhere. Every day, probably multiple times a day, I’d look in the mirror and analyze what I wanted to change. Looking back, I see that I could’ve just focused on taking care of my body through eating yummy, healthy food, enjoying moving my body, and cultivating an empowering inner dialogue to get where I wanted to go aesthetically and emotionally. Easier said than done, but with practice, totally possible.

3. Get adequate sleep and be proactive about stress reduction. Both are critical to doing this forever.

We hear a lot about “mind over matter” in the fitness industry – and while I agree that we all hold an almost unfathomable amount of potential, there’s relatively little focus on what it takes to recover from all that limit stretching. If you want to start working out more, or maintain a super active lifestyle, it’s imperative that you fortify your sleep and stress reduction habits. Adults need between 7-9 hours of sleep. Proactive stress reduction comes in here too: meditating, spending time in nature, unplugging… taking specific actions to reduce your stress levels. 

4. Above all, create a healthy lifestyle that's based on YOUR inner guidance and sensibilities rather than other people's ideas, comparison, or how you think the world might perceive you.

It’s so easy to bog ourselves down with comparing what we ate to the meals your favorite food blogger is posting on Instagram, or otherwise take other people's’ sensibilities and perceptions as our own. There’s nothing wrong with seeking inspiration and learning from other people, but the key is to do so with the knowledge that you’re crafting a lifestyle that works for you. No two people are the same, and no one protocol is THE answer. Dance to the beat of your own food and fitness drum.

I hope this gives you inspiration for ideas and habits to implement! If you have questions, leave me a comment below!

Valerie's 2016 Gift Guide!

Hey beauties!

It's the season of giving, so I wanted to pull together a list of my favorite items that support nourishment, health and overall well-being.

Peruse the list for your girlfriends, family, sister... perhaps even yourself!


1. "No Mud No Lotus" hand-stamped pendant from Blooming Lotus Jewelry

How gorgeous and soulful is this necklace? A reminder that challenge is beautiful, you can order this in either sterling silver or 14k gold-filled at 16 and 18". Check it out here.

 Image via Blooming Lotus Jewelry.

Image via Blooming Lotus Jewelry.

2. Hardcover Moleskine Journal (Large size)

A new Moleskine is filled with possibility. I use and love the hardcover at the Large size for my journaling because: 1) it fits easily into almost every purse 2) it doesn't get tattered or worn, because it's hardcover, and 3) the pages are big enough to write on comfortably without it being an inconvenient size. Check out the Moleskine here. I recommend getting a dark color so it won't easily show dirt or pen marks.

 Image via Moleskine, @moleskine_world.

Image via Moleskine, @moleskine_world.

3. Nourish, the online course helping you live healthy as a lifestyle rather than the next diet

Give the gift of nourishment. Nourish is my 8-week online course designed to help you feel healthy, comfortable in your skin and in love with life – no matter how long weight, eating and healthy living have been a struggle.

It consists of 8 hour-long weekly video sessions, accompanying informational PDFs, weekly Action Steps to move your closer to your goals and an optional Facebook community. Check out the program here.

4. Cuisinart 3.5-Quart Slow Cooker

Before I bought my slow cooker (spoiler alert, this is the one I chose and love), I did a ton of research. I wanted one where I could make 4ish servings to eat myself then have leftovers to eat conveniently throughout the week, but not feel like I was filling a ridiculous vat. The 3.5-Quart has been great for that purpose. If I were feeding a family or significant other on a regular basis and wanted leftovers for convenience's sake, I'd get double this size. Check out the slow cooker here.

 Image via Amazon.

Image via Amazon.

5. Chemex Pour-Over Coffee Maker (6-Cup)

Can you imagine how delightful it'd be to make your coffee every morning with this little situation? It's supposed to make the most flavorful coffee out there. Grab this as a gift that your favorite coffee lover will use every day. Check it out here.

 Image via @katelynclaire on Instagram.

Image via @katelynclaire on Instagram.

6. Chloe Open Back Top by Haven Collective (in black)

I discovered Haven Collective at a wellness fair here in NYC and literally immediately was drawn to the quality and beauty of their garments. I tried on this open back top and was in love – the quality seriously gives Lulu a run for its money. Plus, athleisure is totally a thing for those of us who would be down to look cute with little to no effort. Wear this to the yoga studio or gym, with jeans, or even for a night out with a long pendant necklace. As of this writing, sizes 0-6 are on backorder but you can get sizes 8-14! Check it out here.

 Image via Haven Collective, @havencollectiveyoga.

Image via Haven Collective, @havencollectiveyoga.

7. Love So Deeply Candle via Danielle LaPorte

I chose to grab one of these candles a couple months back because they're 100% soy and therefore safe to burn in your home. I love that Danielle's candles are infused with intention, so whenever you light it, you're connected with something thoughtful and meaningful. Check out Danielle's Love So Deeply candle here and peruse her other candles if you want options to compare it to.

 Image via DanielleLaPorte.com.

Image via DanielleLaPorte.com.

8. Vegetable Spiralizer

One of the key ways to make healthy eating sustainable is to make your healthy food just as delicious as those that don't support your goals. The spiralizer is famous for turning any veggies into noodles so you can eat them as highly nutritious pasta, in soups, added to salads, etc. People always say not to play with your food, but this is one way you totally should! Check out the Inspiralizer (one brand of the spiralizer) at Williams Sonoma.

 Image via Williams Sonoma.

Image via Williams Sonoma.

Are you going to pick up any of these gift ideas? Let me know in the comments!

Feel Like You Need a Post-Thanksgiving Reset?

Feeling frustrated and discouraged about your health and fitness goals after Thanksgiving? 

So are lots of people, so I'm writing today to share with you a couple post-Thanksgiving nutrition and mindset strategies to help you break the cycle of any guilty thoughts and have your healthiest, happiest holiday season yet. 

First, let's talk about what a "reset" is. I used to think that "resetting" essentially meant cleansing... i.e. restricting. Eating only home-cooked foods with no flavor, counting my calories and exercising to burn calories.

But what I learned first through personal experience, then through years of study, and now help my clients and students learn and change, is that going back to restriction is the flip side of the same coin that caused in the behaviors one feels they need to "reset" after.

Put plainly, research shows that restriction causes overcompensation. And the overcompensation often makes us feel like we have to go back to restriction. Negative feedback loop... unless and until we break the cycle. (Easier said than done, but I'm here to say it 100000% can be done!!)

So, how does one live a healthy lifestyle and lose body fat (if that's a goal of yours) WITHOUT dieting and restriction?

You live healthy from what I call a Nourishment paradigm: eating whole, unprocessed foods, working out, sleeping enough, caring for yourself out of a trust in and love for life rather than sense of inadequacy. (There are plenty of specific tools you can use to put this into action, some of which I lay out below!)

So, when I share these tips for "resetting" after Thanksgiving, what I'm offering are tools for resetting your mindset and food habits in a way that is nourishment-based (sustainable and live-giving) rather than restriction-based (emanating from a place of feeling not enough.)


  Photo by Sojourner Society.

Photo by Sojourner Society.

  • Focus on eating a full serving of protein (~25g or a fist size) at each meal. This is going to take some practice, because most people eat nowhere near that. Try it for a day or two and you'll notice immediately that you have more energy and your mood is elevated. Stable blood sugar, baby! Works insane wonders.

  • Do a journal free-write every day for a week. Some of you may have not journaled in awhile or much at all, but extensive research has shown that journaling improves physical well-being, decreases stress and even helps heal physical ailments. (Crazy, I know, but look it up!) Processing your thoughts = awareness = solutions for change arrive = your life changes.
  • Get in at least 30 minutes of exercise four out of every seven days, exercising from a place of celebrating life and feeling fully alive rather than self-punishment. It's amazing what can happen when we reframe what exercise is for. Instead of looking at your workouts as a box to check off on your to-do list, think of them as an opportunity to shake up your energy, experience delicious sensation and shake off any stress.

Speaking of... I'm super excited to announce that I'm offering a totally FREE 5-Day Holiday Reset Challenge, no strings attached, that starts Friday 12/2. 

This'll be like a free 5-day mini-course that walks you through, in a precise and detailed way, my strategies for resetting post-Thanksgiving and heading into holiday parties, Christmas and Jan 1.

Enter your info here to sign up for the Challenge. Again, it's totally free:

Love and light,

How to Do 4th of July "Damage Control"

We’ve all been there, for real.

Feeling guilty about our food choices, whether that simply means breaking your healthy eating streak by eating some items “off plan,” or entirely throwing caution to the wind and not looking back.

This is particularly easy to do on the 4th when food is everywhere and alcohol abounds, and there’s that largely unspoken belief that holidays = indulgence.

I’ll raise my hand and say I remember a 4th of July several years back – when I was still a restrictive eater coming off my Figure competing days – when I decided it was a complete eff-it day and along with one of my best friends, polished off… 3 pints of ice cream.

The guilt was overwhelming. That feeling where you want to please please please just escape yourself.

(It’s important to say here: while the food = guilt, I did actually have a lot of fun at points throughout that day… I mention that because in popular culture we look at food issues in such a clinical, reductive sense. It’s totally possible to be fun-loving and open in certain areas and to struggle in this other area. We are all beautifully complex.)

And as is so seemingly logical and certainly tempting, my response was to try and “undo the damage” by pulling my diet in even tighter and program the heck out of my workouts the next day and in the weeks to come. I think many of you will be able to relate to that, on some level.

This inevitably created a cycle of misery, because the restriction caused the overindulgence, and the overindulgence made me want to restrict. I could never actually arrive at my destination because it was inevitably 10 steps ahead, perpetually out of grasp.

That’s where the 4th of July “damage control” plan comes in. I will say, this isn’t “damage control” in the typical sense for 2 reasons:

  1. The term “damage control” implies that you did something wrong, which is a judgment. Judgment is the place we can be in the habit of letting our mind gravitate to, but it's counterproductive here. Going forward, it's helpful to practice replacing judgment with curiosity, which is neutral… curiosity about what this experience can teach you, what there is to glean here. (So, one might call this a post-4th of July eating “approach” or “philosophy.”) Curiosity opens up the space to gain insight and therefore break patterns.

  2. We will be focusing more on post-holiday eating mindset vs. what to tactically eat. The change many of us are seeking with food/body will and must happen in the mind first. This is unsexy, it doesn’t get instantaneous results, and it does not appeal to our ego sides (we all have ‘em, of course.) But I can’t sit here and pretend that the real answer is just to cut calories or select a 21-day jumpstart as the way out. Mindpower is what creates our lives, both with food/fitness and otherwise.

So, before I jump into the post 4th of July approach/philosophy, what’s implied by the above and important to say is this…

The work that it takes to eat healthy every day of the year but not stress out after the aberrations when you don’t happens moment-to-moment, during the day in and day out. Not only post-holiday when the challenge is pronounced.

That said, here are 5 ways to do post-July 4th “Damage Control”:

  1. Accept where you are. This is a step that we often don’t even think of, but is necessary and actually easier than it sounds. All it means is: take note of where you are, SEE IT, and accept that it’s the reality before trying to change anything. We can’t actually find a real solution(s) until we get real with our starting place, our baseline. Plus… accepting where we are in itself is a huge relief and opens up the space to create new, more nourishing patterns and habits. The How: Aside from taking a minute or two to process this mentally, you can also journal about it.

  2. Instead of opting into a diet regimen (outside-in approach), use your body as the ultimate source of wisdom as to what you should eat today and in the days ahead (inside-out approach). This is an ongoing journey for sure, and a scary one at that, because it requires deep trust. But what we often forget is that our body is designed to crave ingredients that maintain life (i.e. whole, unprocessed foods that support energy and vitality, and promote stable blood sugar.) Translation? If you listen to your body, you will naturally gravitate towards ingredients that will help you de-bloat, detox, get healthier, and lose body fat. The How: Really slow down today and when you find yourself hungry, ask yourself: What does my body feel like eating right now? What would nourish me? Then go eat that. For many of you, this will likely be water and lots of greens today. And remember, this is a practice that will become more effortless with time.

  3. Ask yourself: “What’s the lesson(s) here?” Life is always teaching us something, and as we all know, our struggles are our greatest teachers. Get down and dirty with tapping into your wisdom and finding the lesson beneath the food… journaling is, in my opinion, the most powerful way to do so (it forces you to sift through competing ideas and hone in on what's true.) This is The How. Today is actually a huge opportunity to learn so you can then apply that knowledge going forward and create deep, lasting changes.

Hope everyone had a fun weekend. If you have any questions or reflections about this, leave them in the comments – I'd love to hear 'em!

Love and light,

4 Tips for Avoiding the BBQ Food Coma

 Photo via The Everygirl.

Photo via The Everygirl.

Hope your Memorial Day Weekend has felt relaxing and spacious. And that you’ve gotten to kick back at some point with something(s) that brings you pleasure: a good book, some amazing music, maybe some good ol' silence.

Today’s topic is one that so many of us wrestle with: how to not throw caution to the wind, so to speak, when it comes to eating at a BBQ or event. (Friends outside the U.S.: it’s a holiday weekend here, but these strategies will come in handy the next time you head to an event of your own!)

Holidays are a time when, whether we like it or not, our relationship with food comes under a microscope.

Between there being more food in front of us than usual (stimulating our senses), being around so many other people as you’re eating (various social dynamics at play), and the narrative of it being a “special occasion”…. holidays can feel like a real internal challenge on the food front.

Truth is, there are certain habits we can adopt that create exponential shifts in how we relate to food, helping us eat more mindfully and intuitively. No matter who we are or our history with food. 

These tools will help you:

  • Feel able to focus on conversation instead of food
  • Stop eating when you’re actually full
  • Naturally and (eventually) effortlessly choose foods that energize you
  • Eat just ONE bite of dessert instead of 30 (it can be done… I promise!)
  • And be able to get up from the table and never think about that meal again.

With that said, here are 4 of my top tips for avoiding the BBQ binge and eating more mindfully:

  1. Remember that the root of the issue isn’t the binge eating, it’s the restriction. I call this the Pink Elephant Effect. When I tell you: “DON’T think about the pink elephant,” what’s all that you can think about? Same goes for carbs, sugar, and any other food we deem as off limits. They get built up in our minds and become such a point of fixation that when our willpower inevitably runs out, we dive in headfirst. So, if we want to release binge eating, it becomes about letting go of that restriction (so much easier said than done!) in favor of adopting what I call a nourishment paradigm. Learning to live healthy because we’re in love with life, using our bodies as the ultimate sources of wisdom as to how to eat, move, and live. Letting go of restriction in favor of nourishment is no doubt a huge task – it’s the task, in fact – but for that reason, it had to be #1 :) This process is what we dive into in my online program, Nourish.
  2. Focus on eating protein. Make sure you get at least a serving (4 oz cooked or around a fist size for women) per meal of protein to keep your blood sugar stable and stay satiated. And make it delicious: add the relish, hot sauce, seasonings, sliced avocado, grilled onions… any low-sugar, less processed options to add a flavor punch.
  3. Keep your eyes on your own plate. We often look to others for permission to eat that which we’re craving or to otherwise triangulate what we should be eating. This is a recipe for making choices that are not in alignment with what you and your body truly want. Think about it: it’s a random mixture of other people’s opinions, food philosophies, and possibly second-guessings. There’s no true information there. When you notice yourself looking to others, remind yourself: “Eyes on my own plate!” and continue making choices based on your own process and wisdom.
  4. Take a moment to fully arrive in the moment of eating before you pick up your fork. When we’re distracted and not present while eating, we don’t fully experience our food and take in the pleasure that it has to offer. The result? We end up wanting more and more. So, to fully arrive in the moment, sit down with your plate and pause. Put your focus on getting present (this is easiest done by connecting with the 5 senses), looking at your food and noticing all of the colors, textures and smells. Then, take 5-10 rounds of breath in and out of your nose. When you feel yourself feeling more present and aware, pick up that fork and enjoy! 

I hope this inspires you approach food with curiosity today. Til next time...

Love and light,

One of My Top Tips for Sustainable Healthy Eating

 Photo via The Everygirl.

Photo via The Everygirl.

Hi loves,

Hope this post finds you well and inspired.

Today I'm sharing one of the single most important habits you can cultivate if you want to eat healthy in a sustainable way: planning and prepping your healthy meals for the week. This is a great beginning-of-week practice.

Implementing an easy system for recipe searching, meal planning, and food prep is incredibly empowering. It means…

  • Healthy food becomes just as convenient as food that doesn’t support your goals – in this day and age, how key is that?
  • You spend less energy ruminating about food because your general action plan is already laid out. That means more energy to spend on your relationships, your fun time, your work, your life!  
  • You save money by eating in more often. I have a client who literally started saving hundreds of dollars per month when we shifted to having her cook at home.
  • Your schedule and life becomes more efficient because you know exactly when and how you’re nourishing yourself.  
  • You enter the week feeling happy with yourself for honoring your goals. Becoming aligned in this way increases confidence and plugs the energy leak that gets created when we have an intention but aren’t yet acting in line with that intention.

This doesn't need to take longer than it would to spend time perusing a takeout menu, placing your order, venturing out to grab a pre-made meal... it just requires knowing the tools and being willing to put them into play.

To learn the specific system I personally use and recommend to my 1:1 coaching clients for food planning and prep, click here.

Hope this helps you move through the week in a way that feels good to you.

I’ll talk to you soon!

Love and light,

4 Steps to Get Back Into a Workout Habit

 Photo by Sojourner Society / Bethany Michaela Jones.

Photo by Sojourner Society / Bethany Michaela Jones.

Well, it's 6:30am and I'm typing to you from a black (faux) leather chair in LaGuardia Airport. After an insane travel day yesterday that included a "2 hour" journey that turned into 4, then the worst traffic that my cab driver had ever seen since he started the job in 1998... I missed the flight I was supposed to take to Vancouver to spend a long weekend with my grandma.

So here I am, Round 2, getting ready to get going!

I don’t know about you, but between work, friends, family, and for me lots of travel, it seems like 2016 has been seriously busy... and has flown so far. 

That said, let’s jump right into today’s topic, one that's been coming up a lot lately and is one I know we’ve all struggled with: how to get back in the gym or doing physical activity when you’ve stopped for a period of time, whether that’s weeks, months, or even longer.

Knowing you should be doing something – whether it’s working out or any other behavior – but feeling uninspired to is super frustrating. Irritating, even.

It sends you into rumination mode. It burns energy.

And ultimately, it means that you don’t reap the joys of moving, letting go, and having the pleasure of being in your miraculous body.

Luckily, re-building (or building!) your workout habit requires what accomplishing anything else in life does: transforming your mindset.

Thought patterns and habits are malleable, which is proven by the fact that (as an exaggerated example) some of the world’s most “successful” and influential people – think Oprah, Tony Robbins – faced tremendous hardship early on, coming from “nothing,” and harnessed the power of their minds to embody their visions and create massive impact.

Translation? It’s totally possible for you, along with anyone else who wants and resolves to, to work with yourself, mold your mind, and will your way to a consistent workout routine that you love and sustain the majority of the time. :)

So, here are those 4 steps for shifting your mindset and getting back into a workout habit!

  1. Accept that you’re in the rut. I know this sounds counterintuitive, but acceptance is always the first step in change. You need to make peace with the present in order to move on from it because otherwise any actions you take towards change will still be loaded with those old beliefs... and nothing can transform. How to accept? Journal, journal, journal. Unload about what's bothering you, what makes you feel bad about yourself, getting as honest as possible. Honesty breeds release and gets at the core of what’s real – always love, never fear and defect – allowing you to eventually see yourself in a new light. And once you can see a new way, you realize that you aren’t a bad person for finding yourself in this rut. Then…
  2. Make the clear, marked decision to move your body consistently. Grab that journal (buy one if you need to!) and write out a clear sentence declaring your intention to start moving regularly again. Brain to words, pen to paper makes it real. This step is important because otherwise, the reinstated habit just remains a thought rather than a goal with inertia.
  3. Fall in love with the work that it takes to get fit. Nothing comes for free, and the more we wish for that, the greater the distance we create between our goal and where we are. Giving yourself up to that higher intention and doing the work that it takes to get there can feel like an honor if we allow ourselves to be humbled and transformed by it.
  4. Find a way you love to move, do that 3-4x/week for a month, then build from there. Maybe it’s dance, yoga, tennis… for several of my clients recently, it’s been rock climbing. The point is to get moving in a way you’re pulled to so you reconnect with how satisfying it feels to move. Once you create that structure for yourself, you can start to add in other movement modalities that you know would benefit you.

And at the end of the day? Not every workout day will be exciting, and that’s okay.

Some days, you WILL need to drag yourself to work out and move your body even when you don’t feel like it. (Usually, those are the days when you get into the swing of things and are SO glad you showed up.)

And that’s part of living this lifestyle – deciding to do what’s best for you long term even when it’s not your first choice in the moment, unsexy as it may be.

The rewards of cultivating that outlook are immense, and spill over to every area of your life.

If you have any thoughts or a-ha's that you want to share after reading this post, leave 'em in the comments. I'd love to hear what you think!

Til next time...

Love and light,